‘Feminine’ single mom dresses like a dad for her son

Texas mom Yevette Vasquez refused to let her son feel left out at a father-child event called ‘Donuts with Dad.’ So she put on a mustache and became the belle of the ball.

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Assuring kids that it’s okay to be different sometimes is one of the plights of parents everywhere. But often one of the best ways to impart this lesson is with a little fun. That’s why Yevette Vasquez, a single mom in Crowley, Texas, took it upon herself to dress like a “dad” at a recent father-child event at her son’s school. She went all out with a fake mustache, an oversized plaid shirt, a big hat, and even a spritz of cologne. It was a humorous departure from her normally very feminine attire, but that’s also what made putting on the outfit such a loving gesture and an inspiration to single moms everywhere. Was Vasquez’s get-up a bit silly? Yes. And so is a school-sponsored event that makes children without fathers feel left out.

After playfully crashing “Donuts with Dads” last Thursday, Vasquez posted the following message on her Facebook page, which we’ve edited for grammar and clarity:

“Good morning! Today at my son Elijah’s school, as I was dropping him off, I asked him why there were so many cars. He said there was an event called “Donuts with Dad,” so we quickly went back home because I wasn’t about to let him miss out. I know seeing other dads with their kids isn’t easy for mine, but it’s life. At least I can do whatever it takes to put a smile on that face.”

Yevette Vasquez and her son

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“Parental involvement helps make Sue Crouch an incredible school,” Sue Crouch Intermediate School principal Camcea Stapinski said in an email. “We greatly appreciate Ms. Vasquez and all of our parents for everything they do for our students.”

While Vasquez certainly deserves praise for taking a risk and brightening her son’s day, why is it that some schools automatically assume that everybody has a father? What about the fact that death, divorce, military service, and other realities mean some kids don’t have a dad at home—or at all? Or what about dads who work long or non-traditional hours that make it virtually impossible for them to visit school? Single-sex parent events like “Donuts with Dad” often lead to at least a handful of kids feeling “weird” or excluded—and parents feeling guilty or insufficient. While Sue Crouch Intermediate School will host a “Muffins with Mom” event in October, we have to wonder how kids without moms feel. What about “Pancakes with a Parent” or a more generic family event that will make all guardians and caregivers feel explicitly invited? After all, moms and grandmas and uncles and other caregivers like doughnuts, too.

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